Preparing for Marriage
Congratulations on your engagement! We are happy that you want to be prepared for marriage at St. Anne Church de Detroit and look forward to working with you. The months that a couple spends preparing for marriage and planning their wedding are very special, and we feel blessed to be a part of this memorable time of your life.
At Ste. Anne, we ask that every couple seeking to get married have a minimum of six months of engagement before their wedding day. Our marriage preparation program, Witness to Love, is designed to be completed over this time period, so please know that we schedule wedding dates at least six months from when you begin your preparation, not six months from the date you became engaged. We do this not just to help you have a beautiful wedding, but also a successful marriage.
Most couples interested in getting married at Ste. Anne tend to follow a similar process. We strive to be helpful as you make your way to the altar, so don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions.
Couples usually start by reaching out to Program Director Danielle Center at 313-496-1701 x14 or firstname.lastname@example.org to reserve a wedding date. We can check our calendar to see if we have availability on the date(s) you are considering.
From here, we’ll ask a few questions.
- Has the couple ever married before?
- Is at least one member of the wedding couple Catholic?
- Is the wedding date open? (Weddings must be planned at least six months in advance.)
We are also happy to answer any questions that you might have.
The couple is welcome to walk through the church, by appointment on weekdays from 9:00 a.m. – 4:30 p.m. They are also always welcome to join us for Mass on Sunday. Please note that walk-throughs are optional as many couples live far away.
Wedding dates, when discussed with the program director, can be held for 10 days without a deposit and completion of the Wedding Date Request Form.
When you have chosen your desired date, you must complete a Wedding Date Request Form and submit it to the parish office for review. The form includes contact information for the couple as well as the date and time of the request. The parish staff reviews the form, and notifies the couple upon approval. The Wedding Date Request Form can only be obtained by calling the parish; it cannot be filled out online.
A $650 nonrefundable down-payment is due to formally reserve the wedding date.
- Checks should be made payable to Ste. Anne.
- Down-payments can be mailed or brought to 1000 Ste. Anne Street, Detroit, MI 48216.
- Please list the last names of both the bride and groom on the memo line and the requested date, for example, “Smith-Schultz Wedding, Aug. 18, 2018.”
- Electronic payment is also accepted. Please call the office.
Marriage preparation must be completed at Ste. Anne or at the couple’s home parish. (Many of our brides and grooms are not Ste. Anne parishioners).
Before the wedding takes place, Ste. Anne requires the following.
- Completed A-form. (This is a form that all couples married in the Archdiocese of Detroit must complete. It must be completed with a priest and cannot be filled out online.)
- Sacramental records dated within the past 6 months. (These can be obtained by contacting the parish or parishes where the sacraments were performed.)
Marriage Prep at Another Parish
If marriage preparations take place at another parish, you are asked to follow the requirements of the church where you are being prepared. The pastor is required to send the marriage file to Ste. Anne so the information can be accurately entered into our sacramental records.
Marriage Prep at Ste. Anne
- Meet with a priest. At this first meeting, you will get to know the celebrant of your wedding and he will ask you a few questions and take down some initial information. At the end of the meeting he will assign you a marriage preparation coordinator couple. This is a couple from the parish who will assist you along the way to completing the marriage preparation process.
- After meeting with the priest, you will receive an email from your coordinator couple with a web link for you to fill out a “Prepare and Enrich” marriage preparation questionnaire. This will serve as a tool to highlight strengths in your relationship and areas for growth.
- At this point, we also ask that you choose a mentor couple. The parish provides you with the coordinator couple who is trained to facilitate your working through Witness to Love, but we want you to pick a mentor couple who you know personally to accompany you during your engagement period. They will be expected to meet with you six times to go over the materials in the Witness to Love workbooks as well as be a support for you. The criteria we ask you to use when you pick a mentor couple are simple:
- The couple must be married in the Catholic Church for at least five years.
- The couple must attend church regularly.
- The couple must have a marriage you admire.
Please note: It is only once you have chosen a mentor couple that the date for your wedding will be confirmed on the parish calendar. Keep this in mind and don’t delay!
- Meet with your marriage preparation coordinator couple. Once you have completed phase two, contact the coordinator couple to set up a time to meet. They will invite you and your mentor couple to dinner to go over the Witness to Love program, explain the results of the Prepare and Enrich questionnaire you filled out, and discuss other important details of the marriage preparation process.
- The next day, the coordinator couple will email you a “Scavenger Hunt.” This is a check list of sorts which includes some fun activities for you to do with your mentor couple during the marriage preparation process (for example, go on a double date planned by the guys.)
- Complete instruction in Natural Family Planning (NFP). The Catholic Church takes very seriously the call to holiness and therefore we want to empower couples to live their marriages well. Through various scientific methods, couples are able to track their fertility and grow in their knowledge of how NFP can be used to assist in achieving or avoiding pregnancy. We ask every couple to complete an NFP class online which you can access here.
- Attend a Theology of Marriage discussion with a priest. This has two parts.
- Attend a talk given by one of the priests on the theology of marriage.
- Invite the priest who is assisting with your marriage preparation over for your fifth meeting with your mentor couple. (This is not an additional night, but one of the six scheduled with your mentor couple.) This is usually done over dinner and gives you and your mentor couple an opportunity to ask the priest any questions about marriage and the Catholic faith.
- Plan the wedding ceremony with the priest. One month before your wedding date, sit down with the priest to go over the readings you have chosen, let him know how many people are in the wedding party, decide whether or not there will be a presentation of flowers to Mary, etc.
Please contact Program Director Danielle Center for more information at 313-496-1701 x14 or email@example.com. You can also visit our Weddings Guidelines page for additional details about weddings at St. Anne de Detroit.
May God bless your journey to the altar.
The Ste. Anne Marriage Preparation Team